Sunday, March 12, 2017

5 Reasons To Attend A Homeschool Convention








I still recall my first convention attended in the researching phase
of our homeschool journey.

It was grand and inspiring, and intimidating all in one nutshell!

There were people of all sorts, ages, and although it was mainly
women in attendance, a smattering of men joined the ranks,
as well as some teenagers.

I left realizing that although most days I may "feel" 
alone in our journey, while I'm schooling on the outskirts of town,
 I actually am part of a growing trend.

In order to combat any negative challenges, we homeschoolers may have of:
isolation, loneliness, increased stress, pressure on finances,
less relaxation time for the teaching parent, sibling conflicts, etc. etc.
I believe that being around other homeschooling families is of
of great benefit.

It's also a fantastic way for those researching this way of life,
to see if this, in fact, might be something their particular child is up
for, and how they feel about it as a parent who will have to
be responsible for their child's tailored education.





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Five Great Reasons to Consider Attending a
Homeschool Convention


1) Researching your curriculum

Curriculum choices for homeschooling are almost
as limitless as the children who use them!

There are so many diverse materials out there
(both online & in print) that range from 
offering full parental teaching support to 
students completing the work on their own,
even sometimes being marked by an outsourced teacher. 

With the myriad of options that are out there,
 I find it wholeheartedly worthwhile
to get my hands on the curriculum and peruse it,
being able to pick the owner's brains on how to get 
the full benefit of it, and who it might
be best suited for.

With access to the vendor hall being included 
in your registration fee, that alone can 
sometimes be worth the cost.

One fair warning: do not let yourself
be intimidated by the vendors. Some vendors
do use high-pressure sales tactic (however, most don't)
so just be polite and have a catch phrase ready to use.

I find, "I'm just looking around, thanks." usually suffices :)



2) Investing in your child's education

Any professional career that I'm aware of requires you to 
take advantage of opportunities to develop yourself.
Whether it's done through their training structure
or outsourced, this is seen as bringing beneficial
assets to your company.

For the homeschooling parent, it is often said that
we don't need a higher education to teach.
Which, in many ways, is true.

Fail proof educational options given either online
or in curriculum sets, offer an array of choices
for both educated and parents who have struggled 
academically alike.

However, I am a personal believer in developing
ourselves in any area that we strive to do our best in.

A convention offers us an opportunity to expose ourselves
to new ideas, new ways of teaching, new theories, concepts or goals
that are being explored in the homeschooling community.

I don't see it as simply a couple days to "get away from the kids" 
(although there's that bonus, no doubt), but I see it as personal 
investment in my chosen "career" at this time: homeschooling parent.




3) To connect with others

During the busy season of homeschooling,
it can be difficult to meet new families that
also, find themselves in the same boat as you.

Even in a typical month where we participate
in a local co-op, or take part in a fun field trip or two,
the quality discussions between adults
are usually minimal with the kids in tow.

Since a convention is limited to adult 
participants, maybe a nursing baby tagging along,
it is far far easier to make time for a tea or snack
with another parent to encourage and connect
with one another.

My first year I knew very few families 
with which to make that connection, but
there was a "newcomer's" corner I found
myself in, spilling my heart out to another
experienced homeschooling mother.

The subsequent years, I've found myself
between seminar sessions, meeting up with 
various friends in the cafe, sharing our dreams,
challenges and choosing to uplift one another.



4) To be inspired

Probably the number one reason I hear
cited on why parents attend a homeschooling convention is
this: the dynamic seminars and workshops they offer!

I know that I was ecstatic when I recently saw our local convention's
released schedule for this year's event.


It was peppered with some really good (and assorted) topics:

*special needs 

*dual income

*single parenting

*high school

*real mom sharing type panels

*legal issues in homeschooling

*inspiration for marriage, leadership and the like

I printed out the posted list and began
systematically circling my "must hear" category
of seminars. 

It really got me excited to glean from this year's speakers!!!

These are the 'meat and potatoes' of any convention, 
and offer great value for your registration fee.

Most of the speakers are experienced in their field,
and can offer a wealth of knowledge.

Others are speaking directly from their lives,
but I have always personally gleaned MUCH from
any class I've attended.



5) To remind yourself of why you began...

Like anything in life, there is the honeymoon stage,
which is at some point followed by reality setting in.

Our homeschooling journey has included many highs
and lows, as well as many in-betweens.

Life isn't always a party, and my kids (and I) have
quickly realized that although we can take a few
more field trips than a typical school,
at some point, the book work has to be cracked
open...daily discipline becomes part of the equation.

I know the reasons why we began to homeschool,
and here are a few of them:

*dissatisfied with the public school system

*wanting a tailored education for our children

*helping our children to pursue their interests

However, during some of the more challenging times, 
I've had to remind myself of the "why" more often than not.


Going to a homeschooling convention can help you rekindle
and help you stay focused along the way.





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Homeschooling, as I've alluded to above,
can be a rewarding, but sometimes stressful lifestyle.

One book that I've read many positive reviews on
addresses this stress: "Teaching From Rest: A Homeschooler's
Guide To Unshakeable Peace"

I haven't personally read it yet, but I ordered it 
yesterday with our quarterly book order.

I've heard enough feedback to know that
this book sounds very impactful.

 I look forward to reading it for myself :)

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Tuesday, February 21, 2017

Parenting Through Stressful Situations










I feel like I could write a chapter book on parenting through stress.

I've parented through some pretty intense situations, 

When I had my firstborn, I was not a natural mom at all!
I was a young, inexperienced mother who wasn't too sure of anything...

I remember changing those first diapers and trying to get
the groove of showering again plus coordinate with a
fussy baby and his feeding schedule. It seemed an insurmountable
uphill battle, that finally eased up over time.

As baby number two came along, there were the sleepless nights again, 
and this time trying to put together a decent work schedule (albeit part-time), 
and then return to university to finish my degree
PLUS care for two demanding little ones...

Then after number three and four came...there were the stresses of a new life
in marriage and new neighborhood. Positive changes yes, but I still recall
all the getting to know you years all while dealing with pregnancy sickness
and babies, tots... and children in school.

We thought we'd have only ONE more...
however, we gained three more children of the "deal"!

So, number FIVE, SIXand SEVEN came fairly close together. 
Each one is 17 months apart from the one next to them. 
Three babies within three years!

and I'm battling to keep my eyes open ;
(but trust me, writing is cathartic so I continue)

All throughout these seasons we've also dealt with the "normal" stresses
 that often come with young families: unexpected financial burdens,
 pressures at work, difficult seasons of parenting
 (like the toddler stage or the transition to becoming a teen).

And for us, there's been a few unexpected additions in our journey: 
chronic sickness, fighting depression during most of my pregnancies 
(and post-partum after the last one), dealing with unique educational needs 
and testing, and loss of some of our support systems that we had had in preceding years.

I realize that our journeys are not necessarily going to be the same. 

Nonetheless, one thing I can tell you though is this, 
when you are parenting through stressful situations 
there are many steps we can take that will help keep us 
balanced and on track.


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For a long time, I have not liked that scripture!!!

My husband has used it in rough times to quote to me, and basically said, 
"Buckle down Rachael, whether you like it or not you can't give up now."

I know it's true, and I know it's a great scripture, 
but in that moment of such intense pressure, I often feel like I can barely take any more...

The babies are crying, the phone is ringing, the supper is still not made,
 I'm in my PJs, the teens are discontented and being disrespectful, 
the kids are bickering, and it always seems that it's in those 
moments that the worst bombshell will drop...

The bombshell has come in many forms, but regardless of how it comes, 
you know in that moment you have two choices:

1) have a big fit (whether on the outside or the inside)

...maybe even feel like running away from it all...anyone else ever been there??

OR

2) Breathe deeply and pray for wisdom. It's the stop and pause response. 

Talk to yourself and say, yes this does look hard 
(maybe even downright impossible depending on the situation), 
but step-by-step I/we can get through this crisis with Christ's help.

Sometimes, I admit, I do a combo of 1 & 2.

However, I'm learning more often than not, that stressful situations come, and
then they go...


No More Perfect Moms  -     By: Jill Savage
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Learning to Surrender:

This for me has been the most difficult life lesson that I still battle.

How do you surrender control under the pressure??
How do you go beyond saying "I can do all things through Christ.."
 or "Trust in Me with all your heart..." to really living like you mean it?

I'm not always sure of the answer, but a few things I have learned along the way...

a) you are never going to know all the answers no matter how much you try

b) it is never going to make total sense no matter how much you attempt to "figure" it out

c) free will is both a gift and a "curse"

By curse, I mean that others have the same free will 
to choose good or bad as you do.
And sometimes those choices will cause you
to experience great amounts of pain...

And sometimes, even our choices will cause others pain (even if unintentionally), 
so we better learn how to forgive and show grace...
cuz we're gonna need it too!


 Although He will not always give us all the answers,
 if we surrender our hearts to Him, 
He will give us the strength we need for the journey.

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There is probably nothing greater than having wisdom in a stressful situation.

Whether it be:

Wisdom from His Word.

Wisdom from prayer time (He may drop a thought you hadn't previously thought of)

Wisdom from others who have gone before you.

(i.e. talk to those who will give sound advice, not just say what you want to hear).


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Let go of what YOU think others expect from you.

Let go of what you expect from yourself (when it is unreasonable).

Let go of trying to keep up a certain image.

Let go of unhealthy relationships.

That may include limiting the time you spend with people
who don't support you where you're at, and add to the pressure.

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Allow yourself permission, to be honest, and ask for help when prompted.

This has probably been the toughest change I've made.
Whenever someone used to offer help, 
I'd always say thanks, but no thanks, we've got this...

One day while lamenting in a marriage counseling session
about how difficult things were going for us with the new baby, 
the counselor challenged us to take help whenever it was offered. 

He asked us why we thought they were offering in the first place.
Of course, they were most likely wanting to help!

I admitted that I thought they were only being polite. 
Same thinking that my spouse had.

He challenged us to take people at their word, 
and if they back out after you give them a few examples
 of help you need, then that will be on their own conscience 
(well, of course, they may not actually be able to help OR 
they may have indeed just said that to be polite, 
but that's not on us to "pre-decide")

So, we both ventured out and started to do that...

It was humiliating at first.

A few people did flat out take back their offers when they saw
we were truly receptive to their good wishes...
but many said they really would be honored to help us in any small way they could. 
So, I learned to keep a few suggestions in mind 
(a meal, or take a child or two for a playdate, or 
if they could genuinely keep us in prayer for something specific).

Interestingly, I also started to change the way I offered help to others (it's a two-way street, right?!).

Instead of just saying a general, "How can I help?" when I see someone else 'drowning' in their present life circumstances, I have learned to offer specifics of what
I can do in this season to help them, and give 2 or 3 options for them to think on.

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So, let's do a quick recap:

The bottom line is that when you are parenting through a stressful situation
it is imperative that you don't get freaked out. 

That you take a moment in those intensely pressurized situations 
to relax, breathe, pray and tell yourself it will be okay.

 Then you need to seek out the right wisdom and
learn to let go of any unrealistic expectations. 
Be gentle with yourself, and with others.

Lastly, that you learn to take help when it's offered, 
and offer it genuinely when you see someone else in need.

Don't forget that difficult seasons don't last forever!
Better days are ahead.

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If you've been following this blog for any length of time, you know how much I enjoy
& appreciate author, Jill Savage...

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"No More Perfect Marriages"  looks like an absolutely fantastic companion
to her two previous amazing reads: "No More Perfect Kids" & "More Perfect Moms"

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Friday, February 3, 2017

Learning To Let Go!











I heard him wake before all the rest of us.

Having a mother heart that knows her son,
I knew that this was his way of dealing with the
"raw nerves" of a first day at a new school...

A new high school that is.




School work is definitely NOT his passion.
His infactuation has always been with music instead.

In his former school, our son was finding
it increasingly difficult to keep up academically.
That particular learning style was not his forte.

Eventually, after much prayer & discussion
of the pros/cons, we conceded to his new school choice.

He is full of anticipation, and hopeful that
he will finally be able to catch up.

I am learning more & more to be okay with this 
huge deviation from my original "plan" for his life.

And joining in his excitement that positive
changes will come in this new season.

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The phone call came late one evening, and 
startled this often less-than-calm Mama's heart...

He did what at the trampoline park??!

Over to the Emergency Dept. we raced.

The wait was long, but
the nurses were kind.

It was broken!

Majorly..not a clean break either..
Surgery was completed a few days later.

Screws, plates, and who knows what else has been placed
inside his once strong & VERY active ankle...




To be honest, we've been grieving...

The loss of activity.

The loss of many dreams (he wanted to be in the military).

The stress of having to find new ways to 
keep this young & busy lad productive
while keeping his leg up...so very challenging!

But NEW & bigger dreams have been brewing in this 
young man's heart, and this Mama is learning
to dream alongside him.

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She ran inside from a shopping venture with a
family friend.

New clothes and accessories in hand.
She excitedly tried them all on & danced around
the living room...

She most closely resembled a runway model.
Seriously.

My heart leapt up into my throat...

When did my little one develop into a blossoming beautiful preteen?!




The other eve, hubby & I had a heart to heart.

He mentioned his "shock" at how grown up she's been
looking these days...

The kind of grown up that makes you want
to purchase a huge roll of bubble wrap.

It's hard when your "baby" girl starts to come of age...

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I've come to the realization that
ALL of our children are fast growing up.

It's even harder for me to believe that we now have seven
children that span in age from 16 years-old all the way down to newborn...











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Each one of them came into the world as wee
tiny babes that I held tenderly in my arms.

I, filled with high hopes, and much ambition
to be the very very best mommy EVER, 
stared into their precious eyes filled
with grand illusions of:

-perfect parenting whimsical moments

-Mary Poppins type memories to be made 

-beautiful smiles of gratitude never leaving their faces

-lovely hand-in-hand strolls down Gingerbread lane
(complete with limitless minding their p's & q's)

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I've come to a much more practical realism
in my parenting expectations. 

Now, I'm filled with faith that God 
will give me the wisdom I need.

 As well, I've surrounded myself with a
 healthy community of "encouragers"
linked arm-in-arm around me, as 
we walk this "parenting" adventure out.

I am seeking
to daily fulfill the difficult goal
 of "letting go" of my
children...

Letting go of them to the future.

To their future.

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It isn't easy, folks.
It isn't even always pretty.

This tug of war between my fears
and my faith.

On many days, I'm a "hot-mess" Mama, who's exasperated,
needs therapy, her fav joggers, and
a piece of chocolate for good measure ;)

Seriously, who's kidding?
I'll take the whole entire bar!

On other days (better ones!), I'm reminded
that HE holds the future, and I don't need to worry,
but instead I can pray.

I can have hope.

I can invest.

And I can know...

That I'm not perfect, and neither are ANY of my
children, but we don't need to be..

We can take this journey one small (teeny tiny) step at a
time, looking forward to a bright future, rooted in Him.

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A Prayer For Your Child


I continue to pray for my child,
that You Lord will give them complete
knowledge of Your perfect will 
for their lives.

In every area Lord, please direct them.
Give us wisdom as we make decisions
pertaining to their future (James 1:5).

Please give them Your understanding
& allow Your spiritual wisdom to guide them
in all things Lord.

Let their lives honour & please You, Lord
in everything they do.

Let them continue to know You better,
and produce good fruit.

As they grow up in You, I know
they will stumble Lord.

Help them to walk in repentance,
and to ask You forgiveness whenever
they need to.

And to forgive those who hurt them, Lord.
And to forgive themselves Lord, when needed.

Let them have Your endurance,
and strength to persevere,
especially in the difficult seasons of life.

May they have Your patience in all seasons,
as well as Your joy in good times & bad.

Let them have thankful hearts.

Let them accept Your Son's sacrifice for them
as a free gift Lord, and walk in that inheritance
as a child of God.

Let them have an ever deepening 
relationship with You Lord.

Let them know their future is in Your hands.
 It's eternal. Let them live with an 
eternal focus.

Let them live in pure freedom, self-control
and delivered from all forms of darkness.

Lead us & guide us Lord as
we parent these precious children
that You have blessed us with.

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Suggestions of areas to cover in prayer:
(particularly as they "grow up")

-schooling

-Christ-like friendships

-job opportunities

-the right mentors

-their youth group/children's ministry

-family life

-sibling relationships

-hedge of protection over them

-healing & health

-peace in their minds

-inner healing (emotional health)

-letting go of the past

-forgiving those who have hurt them

-freedom from destructive habits

-financial provision

-learning to serve

-hard work ethic

-future spouse

-future ministry(ies)

-knowing they are loved & valuable

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I also find it particularly valuable to
pray for myself as well.

As a mother of seven, my plate is full
all. the. time.

Each & every single day.

The days I humble myself and
ask for His grace to parent, are the 
days I can (often) tangibly 
sense His grace & presence throughout
the day.

His grace is there even when I don't pray
or deserve it...but there is a difference
when I come to Him and ask.













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