Sunday, November 8, 2009

An All-Inclusive Plan

To whom it may concern,

I am writing this letter today to share with you part of my life story, and to share why I have come to believe that EVERY SINGLE PERSON ON EARTH HAS A DIVINE PURPOSE. Now, I do realize that many people never get an opportunity to fully live it out. Many others don't take advantage of that opportunity either. But I have become fully convinced by God that every life given to us; each person on earth, no matter what their status now or to come (emotional, mental, physical), has a special purpose in mind by God.

Let me share some personal stories with you...

My firstborn came into being quite "unexpectedly". I was dating a man and it was a very unstable relationship. I was studying in my first year at university to become a teacher...when all of a sudden I took ill around exam time...

Later on I would discover that I was pregnant, and further along in the journey I would find out that the biological father wasn't able to fulfill his parental role. This child was 'expected to ruin my chances of finishing my schooling and ultimately damage my whole career'. I was advised by the university health staff to think about what I was doing... they even gave me a paper describing the abortion procedure with contact info for the clinic. I felt very confused and alone. Worse still I realized I had been using substances and heavily drinking all while not knowing I was pregnant! I had thoughts of what kind of life this child would have...where would we get the income to would I finish school...would this child be healthy and live a normal life???

Long story short is that I kept the baby and he is now 9 years old...plays the piano very well...loves to draw..and socialize with all different sorts of people. He is very naturally polite and thoughtful. Many elderly people enjoy his company because of his great communication skills for his age. In short he has been a blessing and enriched our lives!

My second born came only 16 months later! I had been a bit depressed after the birth of my first child and didn't wait very long before entering another unhealthy relationship. I was hoping he would fulfill my desires for unconditional love & acceptance. I also was very insecure about being a single mom and wanted desperately to eventually find a husband. We got very 'serious'...too quickly. Then I found I was pregnant again... so here I was in another unstable relationship and I knew I could not possibly take good care of soon to be TWO children, let alone one!

 I did think about adoption..abortion probably would have made 'sense' in a situation like mine. In the end I kept my second born and he is now 8 years old...and let me tell you a bit about him...he is very articulate...very creative and science oriented...and is such a people person with his antics. It's because of him we meet many complete strangers during regular everyday activities. He also has proven to be a blessing in my life!

My third born came a few years later. At this point I had re-dedicated my life to Jesus Christ, started regularly attending church, finished my university degree as a single mom with 2 children, and moved into a beautiful townhome. I had met a wonderful young man at church through some social activities and we married in 2004.

We wanted a large family so right after the marriage we were anticipating getting pregnant. The next year we had a little girl. She is such a sparkling jewel. However during the pregnancy we were told she had an increased risk of having Down's Syndrome based on our ultrasound. We were asked if we wanted further testing. I read the statistics for the testing. There is a small chance with the tests available of accidentally causing miscarriage. We both decided that despite the fact she might have a disability we would be content with our baby no matter what the risks. We also asked our church to join us in praying for this child and pregnancy as it was a time of pressure, confusion, and potential to be very fearful. When our child was born we were again asked if we wanted testing done and we said no. To update you: she is a little rambuntious and very joyful 4 year old who loves to follow her older brothers around. She has a great disposition and most of all loves to be read to. She does not have Down's Syndrome. However, (A FOOTNOTE) we have since become involved with a small group associated with our local church. This group ministers to women who have various disabilities. One of the women has Down's Syndrome and works as a personal support worker and drives her (nicer than ours!) car around. She is a pleasure to be around and I have personally seen that all fears about Down's Syndrome are not well founded.

Our fourth child came 2 years ago and we were blessed with another energetic boy! So I am outnumbered!!! This child was 'planned' but somehow I forgot that detail when I went through my pregnancy. Without boring you with ALL the details I became so fatigued (physically and emotionally) with this pregnancy that I became very depressed. I was very volatile with my husband, children and generally lost a lot of interest in being around friends. When I was around friends I hid my true feelings/struggles. I even hit a point of sheer desperation during the pregnancy where circumstances kept mounting up.....and up... in our personal lives and marriage also... that I secretly hoped I would lose the baby and end my pregnancy. I feel much remorse about that time. I remember lying in bed thinking about running away from it all...
   But I thank the grace of God that I did get some help & counsel if you will. I did feel completely better after I delivered so I have to blame (in part) some of the hormonal processes during pregnancy. I do realize much more now that I'm out of that 'pit'. One thing that I realize is that I had held onto some unnecessary unforgiveness during that time that opened the door for negative thoughts to come in & grow much stronger. I honestly found that particular pregnancy probably the hardest on my mind/body.

 To update: our fourth born is a very outgoing, personable, talkative 2 year old. He is a joy at our church for others to play with. He makes me smile or laugh at least once a day. I know that God has a great plan for his life as well!

What about you? What child/person do you see around you that you think doesn't have a divine purpose? Do you know that you were divinely placed here on earth by God? (See Psalm 139) I want to see each person that touches my path as a person that is valuable not because of what she/he can do for me or others, but because of WHO has made that person in His image. More on this another time...


  1. Hi Rach, wow, what an amazing testimony. Just goes to show worldly wisdom is not always right. Thank you for submitting this testimony over at Encourage 24/7. I hope someone needing to read this will find it there. I would love for you to link this up at Winsome Wednesday bloghop too. here is the link:

    Your post felt to me like a confirmation of what I wrote about today about worldly wisdom.

    God bless and I am your blog's newest follower :)

  2. Thanks Tracy! I'm so glad that it spoke to you...I am going to come check out your blog hop right now :)

  3. Wow, love your story- a great testimony to the grit, grime and ultimate beauty of life!

  4. Thanks Jennifer! I admit, it was very challenging for me to share this one. But, I know how much hearing stories like this can potentially encourage people.
    Thanks for visiting :)

  5. Such inspiring words, written from your heart...I have four children also. You shared feelings I've had and never spoken about. Thank you and I am your newest follower :)

    1. Thanks Nicky for coming by! I will be stopping by your blog :)



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