Saturday, July 6, 2013

Last Post In Series: Mama, are you TOO busy??

Part Three: Mama are you TOO busy??


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The last two posts including the introduction to this vital topic are below:



So far we've covered saving time tips & thoughts for our:

-cleaning
-cooking
-time with hubby
-time with our children
-time in our homeschool
-time for our appointments

Today we're going to cover four more points. So here goes....

7) Time For Our Spiritual Growth

This one is probably one of the most important things to plan for. Unless you build the 'house' foundation properly, then over the long haul, things simply won't work out!


"Those who know God the best are the richest and most powerful in prayer. Little acquaintance with God, and strangeness and coldness to Him, make prayer a rare and feeble thing." ~ E.M. Bounds


As His Creation, God is asking to partner alongside of us in every endeavor we undertake. As you read His Word, we can discover that He is always willing to walk with us...we just sometimes aren't asking Him to come alongside us for the journey. Often we try to 'take the steering wheel' of our lives and end up with disastrous results....I've been there too many times myself!

I have personally found that the most fruitful days I've had in my life, have always centered around a strong connection between my dependence on Him. I have personally come to this conclusion: there really is no time saved for skimping on my prayer & morning devotions/bible reading.

The time I think I `save` .....I often end up paying for later in poor & costly mistakes. 

8) Time For Our Personal Growth & Skills Development

This can consist of taking the time to develop our skills in areas that are practical (perhaps career or business related; maybe even ones that help us better take care of our homes), or ones that are more of working towards a future dream, vision or goal that has been on our hearts. Both areas, I believe, are vital to our life satisfaction.

I find that without delegating time to this area, in a properly balanced manner, you could see one of two extremes: someone who loses way too much time in their personal growth pursuits (it could be easy to become selfish in this area if we allow ourselves the luxury), or a person that is stuck in a rut and has put all of his/her God-given dreams on a shelf.

& NOTE:  there may be situations where this area is put on hold temporarily: like when a newborn arrives, taking care of an aging parent, or another more time-consuming season of life....and of course we know that these seasons do not last forever.

Step One in this area: allow myself  the time to just 'think', ponder and dream...yes, this can be a valuable use of our time! I know that most likely I wouldn't have pursued most of my dreams already attained (even including having another baby at this season of life) without taking time in my own 'quiet place' to dream of what my future could hold. It can even help us change direction in an area entirely, if that change is needed.

I feel it is beneficial to even schedule it into our lives, but then guard against it becoming all-consuming (timing is everything as well for goals to come to their full fruition).

An example from my own life: God has put a dream in my heart to write. I always enjoyed writing as a child, and even said from the time I was a little girl that one day I would write many books. However, the stresses of life bogged me down in my adulthood, and I put down my pen (with the exception of an occasional journal entry). Then, in the past year I was reminded through some friends, and leaders at my church, about this God-given gift. I began to invest a bit of time each week to my blog and to other practical writing pursuits. This has been a great way for me to fine-tune my skills, and to develop my craft.....but of course I have to guard against becoming obsessed with it, & wait for God's timing in actually moving to the next step.

Many people find that by taking time for these pursuits they actually feel MORE refreshed afterward, not less.


9) Time For Leisurely Pursuits & Friendships

This is usually an area that I don't have to plan for: I mean, who doesn't just LOVE getting together with their girlfriends for a night out?? Or going for a fun afternoon hike? However, there have been seasons (particularly in the past few busier years) where I have actually HAD to schedule this time in...otherwise it just wasn't gonna happen!

Leisurely pursuits can include many things such as: hobbies, sports, social engagements, and overall anything done simply for pleasure. Each one of us will experience joy with different activities. It could be as simple as knitting in the evening to relax...or a planned yearly getaway retreat with the ladies. The point is that YOU enjoy it.

Some of you may think that scheduling time for fun is a waste of time...while I do agree anything in excess could be, I truly believe God delights in us experiencing true joy & living balanced lives :)

It also frees us to 'perform' better when we have our mundane tasks stretching out luminously before us....as many Mamas can often attest to.

Besides, you never know who you may connect with, even in our joyful pursuits? I have personally found it a great way to connect with a new friend. You just never know...


10) Time To Plan & Set Life Goals

To me this is one of the MOST important, if not THEE most important, aspect to time planning, and saving time.

Life is all about balance. You may figure out a schedule that works perfectly for you & your family.... and then...suddenly...a baby arrives...a job change occurs...someone goes through a serious illness...etc. etc.

I have found the best way to make good use of my time is to know WHAT I want to do, and WHY I want to do it. Periodically I will re-evaluate my priorities. What are number 1, 2, and 3 in my life aspirations? Are there areas I have been negligent in? Are there areas I have been far too consumed with?

It can be insightful to ask a friend, or trusted loved one for feedback if you need it.

Once you can see where you're going, and what you feel you'd like to accomplish, then you'll have a far easier time setting your time priorities straight.

Let me make one last suggestion: if you're struggling in general with your life purpose I'd recommend reading this book-->


I read this book twice, and each time received something new from it. Don't keep drowning in life, and continue doing the same things over & over hoping somehow everything will change...recommit yourself to discover who you were made to be, and what God has called you to. You'll never regret this valuable investment of your time!


***In the comments section below please feel free to share YOUR personal thoughts on saving time.


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30 comments:

  1. Thanks for stopping by my blog and following, I love meeting new bloggers and I am following you on GFC. I know what it feels like to be stressed and have a lot on your plate. Not too long ago I did an online meditation month with Deepak Chopra and Oprah, I was amazed at how hard it was to take a little time out of my day to clear my mind and relax.

    http://diaryofatrendaholic.blogspot.ca/

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    1. I always find taking time out to 'rest' and relax allows us to become more productive & inspired... ironic the way we were created for balance, isn't it? Working too hard just never gets one ahead! Thanks for stopping by Erica and sharing :)

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  2. I've been taking some time this summer to slow down a bit. My dh did a lot of overtime in the 1st 6 months of the year, plus I injured myself and started volunteering as Girl Scout leader. Not to mention all the usual stuff I had on my plate. After I've been through a busy season like that, I try to slow down for a little while until I need to pick up the pace again.

    Thanks for linking up to Motivation Monday!

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  3. Thank you for your inspiring post on saving time and especially finding time to pray and worship our Lord. Thanks for sharing at "Tell Me a Story."

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    1. Thanks Hazel! As I always say, like your link up :)

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  4. Oooooohhh, these can be tough! #8 and #9 are two that we Moms especially have a difficult time working into our lives on a regular basis.
    My children are not so young anymore, and so I'm branching out and learning many things through my blogging venture. But that becomes consuming to the point that I do not find time to read or stitch or create for leisure, for pure pleasure.
    It's all about balance, isn't it?
    A wonderful series - thank you!

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    1. Balance certainly is key, isn't it?? But not very easy to maintain I'm afraid...something all of us Mamas need to keep in mind as we push forward ahead in our lives :)
      Thanks so much for stopping by & sharing!

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  5. I couldn't agree more with making time for spiritual growth. I especially need my time of spiritual rest with God, and I can see a big, and negative, difference when I don't have enough rest with Him.
    Visiting from SDG today. :)

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    1. Yes!! Agree 100%...from experience, as I shared in the blog, this can so easily happen...even when busy doing 'good' things :)
      Thanks so much for sharing & stopping by!

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  6. Clicking over from Jen's!

    I'm guilty of overscheduling in the name of good. Working on it. Yes, I am!

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    1. Me too, me too..trying to learn to take it one day at a time ;)
      Thanks Amy for stopping by!!

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  7. Thanks for the great post. Dependence on Him is the key! God teaches me this lesson every day. I'm glad that I found your blog on the Link-up! Have a wonderful day!

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    1. Thanks so much Lisa for sharing & stopping by!!

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  8. Visiting from Ahola Friday. I'd like to invite you to my Friday Flash Blog, where you can share your best blog entry of the week! The party goes on ALL weekend at thejennyevolution.com. And who knows, you may just get featured next week.

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    1. Just did that Jennifer! I enjoy joining as many hops as possible...so much fun :)

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  9. What a great reminder that the most important things in life can't be just assumed or they will be neglected! One of the things I LOVE to do is play piano, but unless I intentionally set aside time to practice (after the kids are in bed) I just won't do it. I can go for weeks without practice wasting time on unimportant things instead. It's one of those skills that I know the Lord has blessed me with, but I need to be more intentional about using it for his honor and glory.

    Thanks for linking up at Babies and Beyond this week! The Lord knew I needed this reminder to put him first.

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    1. I agree! I have been guilty of putting my talents aside for too many years..and you`re right, these talents are for HIS glory, and not our own.
      Thanks so much for sharing and stopping by :)

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  10. Wow. Looks like I have a lot of posts to catch up on. Great post, and thanks for joining our blog hop!

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    1. You're welcome! Thanks for stopping by :)

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  12. Wonderful post. This is my first time here (I came by from the Harvest of Friends blog hop), and I am so glad I did. I will definitely read your other posts. I am a new follower now. I am trying to get a handle on the way I use my time. One thing is for sure, reaching out to God and out for His strength is a priority. I look forward to reading more. Have a lovely weekend!

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    1. Thanks Kelly for the follow! On to check out your blog as well :)

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  13. Thanks for the very meaningful and thoughtful post! We've just come through a period of very little choice in how our time was spent -- very stressful and very upsetting because there was none of the balance you so beautifully laid out! This will be a great guide as we transition to a new normal.

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    1. Awesome Charlene! Glad this could be a blessing to you & your family :)

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  14. Fostering and nurturing our relationship with the Lord should come before everything else. This was such an excellent post to drive home the importance of being intentional about it! Thanks so much for linking up with me last week at Walking Redeemed!

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    1. It's sad to say I have learned this from experience (i.e.when He's NOT first things do not flow well...)
      Thanks for stopping by & sharing :)

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  15. What a great series...each of these are so important! We need to be intentional about - even leisure and hobbies. Refreshment and fellowship. Thank you so much for linking up with me last week. I hope you'll be back by today to link up!

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    1. Thanks Rosilind for stopping by & for hosting :)

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  16. I wish I had time to save. Tee hee.

    http://joycelansky.blogspot.com

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