Sunday, October 13, 2013

When you realize you can no longer be silent...

Pregnant with my fifth child, I have immensely enjoyed perusing the internet and finding pictures of unborn children at various stages...I even bring them up on our big screen TV to show the kids what their baby sister is looking like right now. It makes for some fun family time viewing :)

BTW, here are a couple neat ones that YOUR whole family may enjoy:

However, as I've walked the journey of this pregnancy it's brought back a few memories from past ones. Some of the memories were wonderful (like recalling the ultrasound pictures I saw of each one of my precious children), and yet others were immensely painful (recollecting the disheartening pressure to abort my first child; the rejection I experienced by some as a young, single mother). Pregnancy & its soup of hormones can lead us on an emotional journey notwithstanding bad memories from the past. Although, many women do find that pregnancy is a time of personal reflecting in some manner or another...

One issue I've had to face during this pregnancy is realizing how our past experiences really can influence our present perspective. Although this can be negative at times (AND should be overcome to move forward), many times it can also be a catalyst for positive change in our personal lives.

For example: looking back in the past at my two 'unwanted' pregnancies has forced me to examine the way some of my single mother friends may feel. Even more so, the harsh pressure I felt from the university to abort my firstborn helps me to emphasize with those who are pregnant...alone...and feeling that they can NOT do this on their own. So they may give in & have an abortion....

I've met some of these young ladies. Without judgment we talk about their stories. We share hearts & my goal is to listen. As I've heard some of them speak...sometimes there is weeping...sometimes just a disengagement from their pasts....other times some of them still experience a deep remorse on 'anniversary' dates & sharing how old their children would be if they were alive right now....

 For those who say the baby is just simply a 'fetus' I have to respectfully disagree. The bible actually says that each one of us is fully human before anyone else gets the privilege of getting to meet us face to face.

For you created my inmost being;
    you knit me together in my mother’s womb.
14 I praise you because I am fearfully and wonderfully made;
    your works are wonderful,
    I know that full well.
15 My frame was not hidden from you
    when I was made in the secret place,
    when I was woven together in the depths of the earth.
16 Your eyes saw my unformed body;
    all the days ordained for me were written in your book
    before one of them came to be.
~Psalm 139: 13-16

 Healing & forgiveness is available to those who have made the mistake of killing their unborn baby. There is much help out there if you seek for it; and it is possible to experience a deep renewal of hope for your future. Personally I've also heard from woman who have done just that, and even gone to have healthy subsequent pregnancies, all while letting go of their pasts.

If you follow my blog, you may have noticed that I added a new sidebar section: "Pregnant and Alone?". My desire is that it would bring hope to those who are online & looking for some answers. I have added just a few links that I feel will be beneficial to those who are pregnant and facing difficult circumstances.

***If you yourself are pregnant & alone...or facing undue hardship (of WHATEVER sort it may be) PLEASE DON'T GIVE UP! There is help to be found. Search out a local pregnancy crisis center. Look online. Reach out to friends who you know will stand with you. Don't give up until you find some that will! I felt so alone when I was 19 & pregnant...but help eventually came.

***If you are a blogger, I'd challenge you to prayerfully consider looking for a way to bring light to this issue on your blog. Consider: blogging about life in the womb, sharing a website on your side bar, an article you feel fully expresses your love & hope for the unborn...we can't do it all, but we can all do something!

***For everyone else: consider checking out my side bar & watching the movie "180". It an incredible & challenging movie to watch. A worthwhile investment of just over a half hour. I'd encourage you to take the time watch it, & then share it with someone else.

***NOTE: If YOU know of any other helpful resources please feel free to share with me in the comments below. I will look at them & prayerfully consider adding any others that I feel led to share.

Thanks for visiting & hearing my heart today,

Rachael J DeBruin


  1. I think it's wonderful that you are dedicating your blog toward helping others find hope and healing. I am stopping by from We were blessed to link up after you over at Inspire Me Monday.

    1. Thanks for the encouragement & stopping by!

  2. What a beautiful calling you have on your life and ministry, Rach! I love this and am so glad you're reaching out to those who've aborted or have an unwanted pregnancy. We (as a Christian community) don't offer enough support and counsel for these kinds of situations. I'm going to lift you up in prayer, asking God to bless your for your sensitivity to the Holy Spirit and your compassion for this neglected group of wounded and weary women, my friend!

    1. Really appreciate the prayers Beth! I know for me it was God that reached out to me (through people mind you) when I was in that boat...praying that the same thing will con't to happen again & again :)

  3. So glad that you are reaching out to young women that are hurting. May God bless your ministry of healing words!

  4. May you continue to reach out to young mothers to be. Thank you for sharing with us here at ‘Tell Me a Story.” I love it the way you are involving your children in this pregnacy.

  5. I wasn't alone with my first, but I was very young. My mother was the one who was the pressure to "get rid of it"... well, "it" is now a beautiful 20 (almost 21) year old wife and CNA who cares for dementia patients... and she has been joined by her 6 (soon to be 7) younger siblings. I will look hard at what ways I can help to spread this message over at my blog... I appreciate the reminder!

  6. What a great ministry. Thanks for sharing your story and using your experiences to help others.

  7. What a great post! I'm so happy to see you have kept your baby and am too passionate about life of unborn children! I volunteer at a local center that helps women who are considering abortion! :)
    I will definitely blog about this!

    Want to exchange buttons? :)

  8. I love that you've added the "Pregnant and Alone?" sidebar to your blog. I pray that those who are feeling pressured to have an abortion will seek Godly advice, yours or some other person who can help them in such a difficult, frightening time. Thank you for your lovely post.

  9. Aww. I really enjoyed reading this and your perspective having been pressured. I can't imagine. I am featuring you for Living Proverbs 31 this week (a day late...oops). Thank you for linking up and sharing your heart.

  10. Hi Rachael,
    I loved reading your post, because I can see your God given heart for this ministry, to encourage those who are pregnant and alone. I will say a prayer :) God bless



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