Guest Blogger Today!
I have the lovely Joanne Leach guest blogging here today. Here's a little bit about her:
"I'm the mother of two married children, and grandmother of five. My husband Bob and I have been pastoring a non-denominational church for 28 years now. My passion in life is helping women achieve their full potential, especially in this day when women are pulled in so many directions. I'm excited about seeing the next generation grow up with character and integrity and I believe good parenting is the key!"
& please take a moment to check out her amazing blog!
Reward your children for good behaviour — don’t bribe them to get good behaviour!!!
Some parents have a hard time discerning the difference between bribes and rewards, yet there is a difference. Whether we like it or not, we live in a society where certain behaviour reaps certain benefits. (Some parents disagree with this, but how many would continue to go to work if there was no pay check at the end of the week?)
Here are some examples of rewards:
–an allowance earned on the weekend for doing chores all week long
–a special treat for doing well at school
–a hot chocolate and cookies after shoveling snow
And here are some examples of bribes:
–’if you go and clean your room I will give you $5.00′
–’go and take the dog for a walk and you can watch that TV show’
–’please take the garbage out, and I will give you a treat’.
I hope you can see the difference, because there is one! In a family, all of us have responsibilities. Some things we like, other things not so much. We are not paid to do these things (I wish I got paid everytime I made a meal!!!!) we do them simply because we are part of a family, and we all share the load and contribute.
A child should not be raised with the idea that they are doing you a special favour by helping out, and therefore deserve a reward or payment. Kids should accept the fact that everyone pitches in, with a good attitude. That’s what family members do. Doing age appropriate chores is normal.
If a parent chooses to give a special treat or reward for an extra special job done well, that is their prerogative. It should be appreciated, but certainly not expected.
Allowance falls into a separate category, because it’s a great way to instill responsibility in children. (However, if chores are not done, the allowance is not given, but then the chores still must be done — they are not optional!). The other benefit of an allowance is that young children can earn money, and then the fun begins of teaching them how to save, spend, and give. And that’s another blog for another time.
The goal is to raise children who are diligent, hard workers, helpful, clean, tidy, selfless, and on it goes. It takes work, but it’s so worth it.
Oh and, start young — even a two year old can pick up toys! And a five year old can cook!