Friday, March 14, 2014

~"Your Marriage is Worth Fighting For" & a Marriage Post Round Up~





I slammed the door in hopes that he would notice me...
I certainly was feeling justified in my anger.

The frustration had been welling up in me for so long: I couldn't understand how he couldn't understand MY point of view! My points, that I had always believed, that were 100% correct!

He withdrew his emotions for the duration of the evening. Only spoke when he had to.

Later, the kids retire and off to bed. Then the back & forth banter continues.

Once the tears are spent, I now face myself in the mirror. Why Lord? Why can't he see MY way?!

The situation above may happen every once in a while . For others, it could be a daily occurrence. 

However, don't think this is a new 'phenomenon'! 

I am convinced that ever since Adam & Eve first sinned, the potential for strife between ANY two people has been there. Especially a relationship that is as intimate, as marriage is.

*For interest's sake, and if you don't believe me, you should read this author's take on famed Martin Luther's marriage to Katherine (former nun)--> Marriage As a School of Character

Let me finish the above 'squabble' lest you think that my hubby & I are still in the 'dog house' with one another!!!

First the emotions subside, and the conviction begins...over the years we've both learned the 'art' of reaching out to the other. His fav way to connect with me is through laughter: all he has to do is get me to crack a smile & I'm toast to 'winning' my argument! It reminds me of how my father used to do the very same thing when I was a little girl (having a fit over some thing or another). Yes, it always works :)

If hubby doesn't feel up to that, usually by this point I'll have had some time to think or pray. Then I (usually) approach him asking if we can talk. He is (most of the time) all too eager to make amends about whatever the issue was...most of them seem small. Insignificant. Petty. At least when reflected upon later.

Then, as married people all know, it's time to make up & move on! 
If you don't, then quite frankly, the 'walls' will continue to build up & up... becoming all that much harder to break down later.

~A Marriage Reminder for Today~

Marriage is a covenant,
Between two people who have been brought together by love.
They may not FEEL that love all the time,
Nonetheless, it is a CHOICE to honor God & that other person.
It is a choice that is NOT always easy,
However, the Lord will give us strength to fulfill our commitment,
And to find JOY in the journey!


Marriage Post Round Up; did you miss any of these inspiring posts?

Learning Through Our Mistakes (& it's all about doing the growing TOGETHER!)

"Frugal & Fancy" (touching on the financial side of things)

Messy Marriage (why it's REALLY worth fighting through the 'hard' stuff)

Boy Meets Girl (single mom with 2 kids finds second chance love...yes, that's me!)

Grateful for My Hubby (from "Yes They Are All Ours") & A Marriage Post Link-Up

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10 comments:

  1. we need to learn our spouses don't we? No sense dwelling on things. :)

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    1. Exactly right! Thanks Annette for stopping by :)

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  2. I've enjoyed reading through your site today. When I saw the 180 link, I instantly fell in love with your blog! One of my dearest friends had heaps to do with distributing these in our country. Bless you Rachael. :)

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  3. Thank you for linking up with me last week at Meal Planning Monday Recipe link-up! :) I hope you join me again this week. http://www.aprilshomemaking.com/2014/03/meal-planning-monday-recipe-link-up-2.html

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  4. Wise words, Rachael! I also think it's really important to keep in mind that both my husband and I are on the same team. It's easy to think that I need to win my argument, but if I'm winning, then WE are losing.

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  5. I have all too often felt this way too. I also melt when my husband starts joking around with me. I can't stay mad at him for long. He's too cute. :) Love this post!

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  6. We as women tend to always be right (at least in our own eyes) - - but sometimes it is best to "let it go" just forget it and allow hubby to have his way. Your opinion does count and he needs to hear it (ONCE) then allow him to make the decision. At least that works for us. Thank you for sharing with us here at "Tell Me a Story."

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  7. Great post!

    My husband and I were recently counseling a young couple, and we told them this: "Winning" the argument is when your relationship is restored. If you march off bitter with each other, even if the other person concedes, you haven't "won" anything. You're on the same team!

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  8. Very true sentiments. My husband and I went through counseling a couple of years ago and it wasn't fun but it was needed. I'm so much happier now that we're communicating more openly and being more supportive of each other mutually.

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  9. a lot of people should be reading this....

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