Thursday, September 11, 2014

Where The Road Of 'Self Pity' Will Take You....

Where The Road Of 'Self Pity' Will Take You

Above are just a few pics of our everyday blessings, that I admittedly, sometimes take for granted...

Self-Pity: Sharing What's On My Heart Today

It tends to strike during our darkest, and often loneliest moments.
When I am fighting it, I often have many justifiable excuses.

"Things weren't turning out MY way"
"It NEVER seems to work out for me"
"They always REJECT me"
"Why do they treat me this way?"

& my personal fav struggle, "This is NOT fair!"

Fear, sickness, worry, abandonment, stress...
many emotions can precede it.

Now, I will add to the record, that I do believe there IS a time to grieve, mourn & ask for support in times of trial.
Calling friends/family/mentors for prayer & advice, a listening ear, etc.
That is never ever wrong!

 It is in fact the opposite of what I'm talking about here. 
& hopefully your friends will help support you, so that you can feel strengthened & built up after your time together.

But when we begin to cross that border from asking for support, into a full-blown 'what about me' self-pity party, we often find that this party is only attended solo!
Everyone else tends to want to leave at that point...

I once read that John Maxwell, business guru & leadership expert, if he has a victory or a failure, he never allows himself more than 24 hours to celebrate or be 'down'...either way, after that period he's starting afresh.

Joyce Meyer, one of my favorite speakers & author of "The Battlefield of the Mind", said that you can either be in your self-pity, or you can walk in your power/strength in Christ. It's one or the other, never both!

I have ashamedly struggled with this emotion for many years. In more recent difficult situations, I've often felt that life has dealt more than its fair share of trials.

 But that sort of thinking never changes your circumstances for the better anyway. 
Trust me.

So I've been learning to focus on the blessings.
 The small ones in the lean times.
 The everyday goodness of God.
Develop thankfulness.

Pity is really a deceptive emotion, as it masquerades as part of the 'answer' in times of crisis, but really is nothing more than a cloak of vanity & self-focus.

It doesn't accomplish anything, and your time could be used in a far more productive manner.
Especially during seasons of crisis, where time often becomes a vanishing commodity anyway.

I want to get to the place where a pity party isn't even welcome for more than an hour, maybe even less!

How about yourself? 
How do you deal with this emotion?

1 Corinthians 2:16b

"But we have the mind of Christ."


  1. Interesting view point. We must be adressing a necessary topic.

  2. Self pity is a great tool of Satan, I am sure! I am searching the Scriptures & praying for insight about this particular one: 1 Peter 12 & 13 " Beloved, do not be surprised at the fiery ordeal...which comes upon you for your the degree that you share the sufferings of Christ, keep on rejoicing, so that also at the revelation of His glory, you may rejoice with exultation." This suggests to me that the more trials & sufferings we have, the more joy we have! You made some good points on differentiating between genuine grief & self pity. I'm sure God will help us distinguish between the two of we pray for that wisdom! Love & prayers, in Jesus, Cynthia



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