Five Ways To Support
A New Mama Post Partum
If you're a fellow Mama out there,
then you know how much you're thankful for (or wished for)
that post partum support...
In any form that it came in:)
I just gave birth to number six a number of weeks ago.
& let me tell you, any & ALL support was greatly appreciated!
I can't tell you how much it meant to me when a surprise meal
greeted me at the door.
Or a friend sent me a "I'm thinking of you" text message.
After giving birth, hormones are still fluctuating, baby is often getting
settled in, and our hubbies soon return to work...
Are you hoping to support a new Mama in your life?
Here's FIVE ways that you can:
1) Bring her family a meal.
Is there anyone out there who doesn't like FREE food?! I can't even begin to tell you how much it blessed me to receive those free meals. It was blissful :)
Just be sure to ask Mom (or her close friends): if there are any food allergies/aversions in the house, and see when's a good time to drop it by (try to remember to knock lightly, as baby or Mama may be sleeping!)
2) Check in to see how she's doing.
Postpartum blues is very normal. However, depression can set in, and psychosis (although very rare) is a real risk. That's one of the reasons why social support is SO beneficial to new moms, no matter if they seem to be doing well emotionally or not. Even sending a quick message letting a new Mama that you're thinking of them can do wonders in encouraging their souls. I know many times after a birth, when I was feeling super hormonal (with postpartum blues & my milk coming in)...& just unable to get on top of things, those message meant everything to me :)
3) Even better, stop by for tea.
Offer to bring her favourite drink & snack. Reassure her that you do NOT care how the house looks, or how she may be dressed...you just simply want to stop by & see that new little babe! I know some Mamas like to wait a bit before having visitors, so respect her if she prefers to wait. Honestly though, I know I CRAVED adult interaction after birth (probably because I have other children!) & having someone over was exciting for me in the post partum season. Don't forget to keep your visit short (especially the first couple weeks after birth). Also, if possible, shy away from negative or heavy conversational topics. A post partum Mama probably doesn't need to hear all the latest (negative) world's affairs...(more often than not, she's already pretty emotional )
4) Offer to come over & help.
Practical help probably tops my list as one of the MOST helpful thing a friend/family member could do. Having someone come by: & do a load of laundry, help with the dishes, or even watch the older children while you have a rest with baby, that IS such a blessing! I've recently had a 'mother's helper' come by once/week. She is a tween & able to help me with the older children (they're home since we homeschool them) & I can't tell you how much I appreciate her. Just having an extra set of hands around makes such a difference.
5) Pray for her & her family.
There is no season that's probably as trying as when a new baby enters our lives. At least that's been my experience. The lack of sleep & frayed emotions can leave BOTH parents struggling to cope with even what's normal in the home. I am so fortunate that I have a supportive church chock full of small groups. My hubby & I each have found a small group of people to call our 'home'. I am so thankful for their prayers over our lives...ESPECIALLY after a new baby has arrived!
**If you don't have that supportive community in your life, I'd encourage you to find one. Look in your local area, ask around & even online (not a substitute, but can be helpful) can one find a supportive & prayer-filled group of fellow ladies.
& If you've recently met a new Mama, who hasn't really connected in your community, perhaps this is where YOU can help her. Perhaps a language or cultural barrier exists & you could help by pointing her towards a community that would best support her needs. Be intentional & mindful whenever you meet a new Mama :)
From your own post partum experiences,
what have YOU found to be the most helpful?